Seasons Change but emptiness remains

A tiny ding on my phone and a text that read, “Mom, I feel empty inside like there is a void and I can’t figure it out.” It wasn’t the first conversation along these lines in recent weeks that had been sent my way. This time I didn’t hesitate I decided to be bold and respond with the truth that they heard when they were little, but had since rejected and put out of their mind.

“Honey,” I responded, “We were created by a relational God. In the garden of Eden He would come just to walk and talk with Adam and Eve in the cool of the day. Can you imagine! God walking right there with you! It was the cool of the day when He showed up to confront Adam and Eve after they first broke faith with Him and brought sin into the world. He knew what they had done, but He still responded to them relationally and they responded with accusations and blame.

Right there in that moment something new was created inside each one of us. Blaise Pascal described it like this, “What else does this craving, and this helplessness, proclaim but that there was once in man a true happiness, of which all that now remains is the empty print and trace? This he tries in vain to fill with everything around him, seeking in things that are not there the help he cannot find in those that are, though none can help, since this infinite abyss can be filled only with an infinite and immutable object; in other words by God himself”~Blaise Pascal’s Pensees

I continued in my text saying, “God is in a relational pursuit with you and He is not going to give it a rest until He has been allowed to fill that hole in your heart.”

Eugene Peterson the author of The Message Bible would say to his son each night, “God loves you. He’s on your side. He’s coming after you. He’s relentless.” 

That is my hope and my belief even if I don’t see anything changing for my child. The response to my text that day was crickets…nothing, but I hold on to hope. One place I found hope is in Luke 15:1-32. The Pharisees and Scribes had gathered around each other trash talking Jesus saying, “All he does is hang around sinners and eat with them!”

Jesus turns to them and responds by telling 3 parables that are all related. The first is the parable of the lost sheep where the shepherd goes out look for the one that is lost and he keeps looking until he finds it. When he does find it he calls his friends throwing a party to rejoice over the one that was found. Jesus closes the parable by saying all of Heaven also rejoices every time one sinner is found and repents.

The second is about a lost coin and the woman of the house literally turning everything upside down in her search for that single coin. She lights a lamp and seeks diligently until she finds it. She does not give up until that coin is in her hand and then calls her friends to rejoice over what was lost being found. Once again Jesus says the angels rejoice over one sinner repenting.

The last parable is about a father who has a prodigal son. In the story the son says to his father, “Give me my inheritance now (which was hugely disrespectful and arrogant).” Then the son went off to do whatever he wanted to do. He did things I am sure the father had warned him never to do and hoped he would never experience. Not surprisingly things got ugly, hard, and empty for the prodigal. He thought to himself, “My father’s servants have a better life than me…I will go ask to be just a servant in my father’s house.” Imagine that young man’s surprise when it wasn’t the servants that saw him first, but his father who had been watching for him diligently hoping and praying for his return. His father ran to him, hugged him, and kissed him. You may know the rest of the story if not you need to read it. The point I am making is God does not give up, He keeps looking for what is lost, He seeks what needs to be found and He will run to your wayward child, throw His arms around them, kiss them, and welcome them home. The party in heaven will be awesome!

One day I hope to be looking down a road that is rugged and worn with the sun setting in the distance and see my prodigal walking my way with the Father by their side. In that moment I will know that their heart is whole because God will have filled it in the way only He can.

Pray: Father, be with my wayward one today. Keep seeking and calling out to them out as they ignore You and seek other ways to fill the emptiness inside their heart. And as I wait (sometimes in fear and doubt) remind me that You love them more than I ever could and You will not stop relentlessly pursuing them. ~Amen

New year Continuing to hope!

As I sit here in the waning hours of 2024 I find myself considering what the new year will bring. I hear the pop of fireworks going off and can see neighborhood houses lit up and filled with guests. In recent years with all that has been going on in our home I have often looked for a quiet place to sit and put down my thoughts about the year that is coming to a close.

This year I am more focused how 2025 will be different for our family. With all that has gone on in just the last few weeks everything has changed as to how my husband and I will be relating to our kids in the coming year. There is grief and hope all meshed together in what is going on. How our family looks has been changed forever. As I am watching the clock tick down another minute closer to the end of 2024 I am reminded that my hope should be in my heavenly family and not my earthly one.

Your year may be starting off much like mine as you hear people wishing you a Happy New Year, but it does not feel like it will be happy or new. The calendar may change, but you expect that not much else will. May I offer some encouragement to help bring you into the new year with more hope?

“But when the fullness of time came, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, so that He might redeem those who were under the Law that we might receive the adoption as sons. Because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into our hearts, crying, ‘Abba! Father!'” Galations 4:4-6 NASB

Remember who you are: You have been adopted into a heavenly family and are fully loved. You are covered by grace that came from Jesus’ sacrificial act on the cross. You have the abiding presence of the Holy Spirit living within you who prays for you when words are hard to come by. You have the right to cry out, “Abba Father!” and He hears you! Not only that, He sees our tears and He collects them in jars remembering our grief and working all things to His good purposes.

(Galatians 4:6, Ephesians 2:8, Romans 8:26, Psalm 56:9)

Knowing these things, I pray that you have hope in 2025. Specifically asking that the Lord will help you to pray for your children expectantly and boldly. That you would be filled with His joy and peace as you believe He is working in their lives. Trusting He will enable you to love them even when it is hard. That you would be filled with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Believing that the same Spirit will give you the strength to do the things that will point them ultimately to their Father in Heaven. Most of all, I pray that you will experience your Abba Father in new ways. That you will be given abundant reasons to be thankful. That you would experience the blessing of encouragement from other believers as you walk this journey with your wandering wayward children.

Hope for 2025! “Now may the God of Hope fill you with Joy and Peace in Believing, so that you will abound in Hope by the Power of the Holy Spirit” Romans 15:13 NASB

Here is a prayer from Every Moment Holy by McElvey that might help you as you work to pray expectantly in the coming year.

From the book “Every Moment Holy” Volume 1 by Douglas Kaine Mckelvey; Rabbit Room Press, 2017

The Darkness that overwhelms…

I must confess that I have felt upside down the last few weeks.  This is the season of darkness before the return of light.  I have always struggled with this time of year when I know the light will decrease day by day until that very short day in December comes and the light begins to slowly return.

I am a sun-loving individual. I enjoy the warm days with the blue skies and leaves rustling in the summer breeze. Those once brilliant greens of summer have long since changed from brilliant reds and golds to a withered brown and have fallen to the ground.  All that is left is a few dry leaves that rattle in the chilly air of late Fall. For me it is the beginning of the dark and cold days of winter. 

This is the time of year where we reminisce about the months that have gone by and look forward to the approaching holiday season. Usually the sparkle and lights of Christmas lift my spirits, but more recently those things do not seem to have the same effect. Memories of my children’s laughter and exclamations of joy have faded as the new realities of what is going on in their lives have taken center stage. 

After expressing this to a friend she asked me, “What would it look like for you to experience the knowledge of and belief in the love that God has for you?”  My response to her was, “I think it would feel like this season of darkness would feel less fearsome.  The sorrows and regrets that I experience would be lessened because I would know that I am not alone in the midst of them. There would be a calmness in the knowledge and the faith that God loves me always.”

Can I ask you a question? Are you struggling with a season of darkness? My friend shared a verse with me that day that lead me to a place of comfort. She reminded me about what we have in Christ. 

In 1 John 4:15-16 it says:

  1. Find a quiet place where you will not be distracted.
  2. Be silent.  Really just be quiet!
  3. Wait on God and just breathe.
  4. Push away the thoughts that creep in and continue in your silence.
  5. Listen for what He has to say to you.
  6. Write those thoughts down.
  7. Close with prayer by
    1. Taking time to glorify God
    2. Confessing any sins that might have been brought to mind in the silence
    3. Expressing gratitude and thankfulness to God
    4. Bringing your needs before Him.

Your first few times doing this will feel awkward, but eventually you will hear God speak to your heart in the silence. And your soul will be refreshed by your time spent with Him. 

Sword of the Spirit

From the book “Every Moment Holy” Volume 1 by Douglas Kaine Mckelvey; Rabbit Room Press, 2017